Is being gay a choice?

My old reaction would have been an absolute "yes", but that has recently changed for me. But on a side note; I don't think people are actually born gay either.

I think every person who has ever, if even only a single time during their life, wanted to procreate and/or have a child (which I suspect is everyone) cannot be gay.

Sure you could argue that one doesn't need to "go through the motions" to procreate, but you have to then argue that people are born knowing advanced science; and that is just crazy talk to think people are born knowing about test-tube reproduction and/or cloning, etc.

Another point that I would like to observe is that there are many sexual perversions in the world and we do not say that people are born with these perversions.

We do not allow child molestors to argue that they were born to only desire sexual relations with young people. Nor do we allow people who prefer bestiality to claim they were born to only have sexual relations with animals. Nor feet. Nor bondage. Nor public acts. Nor voyeurs. Etc.

Yet we allow gay people to make a scientific claim which goes largely unchallenged due to the sensitive and private matter of the subject.

On a side note: Why do gays pressure or even make fun of other homosexuals who actually prefer to have their sexual activities kept private from the world? I think this is obvious "peer-pressure" and an indicator that they are not sure they were born gay as much as seeking acceptance when they possibly lack acceptance in other areas of their life.

So if a gay person is not born this way, then how do they end up acting gay.

First off, I suspect it has to do with the physical pleasure that sex brings people. If we view history and even being advertised now in modern Africa, we see that circumcision reduces the sexual pleasure for a man when he has sex and thus allows for men to more easily control their sexual urges.

The important aspect there was, "...allows for men to more easily control their sexual urges."

Sex results in a powerful climatic euphoric event; I don't think I need to go into further detail; one in which can be very desirable for both men and women. It is this "finale" that helps prod people to further explore their private sexual futures with a sense of comfort and assurance; and on the occassion into the world of homosexuality.

These are people who made a choice to be gay.

But I now also believe that there is not only the choice to be gay, but the convoluted guidance through imagery and peer-pressure to become gay.

An example is the famed Teletubby declaration by a famous religious person whose name I do not remember. If he was talking more about how the Teletubby that carried the purse around was not merely just a big, purple Teletubby, but instead that the purse carrying Teletubby appears to be the oldest and largest member of the Teletubby family (the one that seems to be the "man of the Teletubby house") is carrying a pursue like mommy ,then I would say he could be correct in his suspicion about homosexual imagery for children.

Mass media can have a profound psychological impacts on people at any age; leaving people with false impressions about reality, or historic events, and even be used for propoganda as Hitler discovered.

One easy example is the first radioed story "War of the Worlds" which brought mass panic in the USA.

Another good and more current example is plastic surgery. I suspect that there would be far fewer people "going under the knife" if there weren't television programs dedicated to showing plastic surgery which gives people a greater comfort about doing it themselves after a thirty minute glimpse into surgically altering one's self forever.

So I suspect that some gay people are gay by choice, but there are also gay people who are pschologically lured into being gay through imagery (movies, and regular television programming), or peer-pressure, or even other psychological factors.

If television didn't have such an impact, then why do they have to sometimes say, "Please do not try this at home!"?

I do not believe that being gay is a birth defect.